When things no longer make sense

Back in the beginning of the 80’s, someone pegged me as a ‘utopian anarchist.’ (I was holding office for the Dutch Social Democrats, and the remark was intended to point out that my beliefs were a bit too far off in left field.) There was a lot of truth to…

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Hijacked

I never expected I would be posting political commentary on this blog. I have always intended it to be a very personal approach to our development as individual human beings. By highlighting my own experiences and thoughts, I can help others to understand and learn from their own experiences. But…

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What matters

In a group of friends, we recently shared stories of our respective childhoods. We were all a bit surprised to find so many parallels in our histories. Tales of physical and emotional neglect or abuse. Sometimes to the person telling the story and sometimes to one of their parents. Tales…

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The Promise of Spring

Spring and Easter are not only arriving early this year, the beginning of the season is marked by tragedy and unrest. This seems so contrary to what this season means. Springtime marks the end of the dark, cold season and the coming of light and warmth, bringing fertility to the…

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The many shades of anger

As a young woman, I had trouble controlling my anger. It was an old anger, red-hot and smoldering. But I wasn’t aware of its presence, and it would flare up unexpectedly. Especially when I felt I was not seen or not heard or when my personal integrity was threatened. In…

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Aging

Legend has it that Prince Gautama, who later became the Buddha, led a sheltered childhood. His royal father only wanted him to see the beautiful, happy, and uplifting things in life. When he was a young man, he went out walking with his courtiers and caught sight of an old…

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Loving life

A friend said to me the other day, “I was born to love everything and everyone.” This sheer trust in the natural goodness in the world blew me away. Especially because he is not exactly a naive person and comes from an “eye for an eye and a tooth for…

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Emotions

I once met a man who told me, “I have no emotions, emotions are a woman thing.” I smiled, knowing that, when someone speaks with this much conviction, it makes no sense to tell him otherwise. The primary emotions in our lives are Fear, Anger, Grief, Joy, and Compassion. When…

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